Moving to a different country for a better, more lucrative job or a promotion can be pretty exciting. However, the thought of leaving your home and everything and everyone you have grown to love can also be so depressing that you would like to postpone your move indefinitely.
As an adult, you will definitely have mixed feelings about relocating overseas. Your children may feel the same as well. They will be sad about leaving their friends, classmates, and school, and they will even be more anxious about starting a new life in a different country.
Whether you and your family are moving to Australia from the UK or to another country, you can ease the worries of your kids and help them make a smoother transition by preparing them well for the big move. Here are some tips for doing so:
1.Talk to your kids about the upcoming immigration
As soon as you know that you are moving overseas, hold a family meeting. Make sure everyone in the family is present.
Start by discussing with them what lead to your decision to immigrate. Explain to them that you received a job offer that is too good pass up. Encourage them to ask questions and to share whatever they are thinking and feeling, both positive and negative.
Throughout this meeting, make sure you demonstrate certainty about your decision since this will help your kids feel confident about the upcoming changes. If you have any qualms and worries about the move, it is best not to let your kids know about them yet. This is because if you are unsure about your decision, you will increase the anxiety your kids will feel and make them more apprehensive about relocating overseas.
Before you end the meeting, let your kids know that they can speak with you at anytime about the move or anything else they want to talk about.
2.Learn about the country you are moving to together
Involve your kids in researching and learning about the country you will move to. Go online or read books about the history, culture, language, and other facts worth knowing about your country of destination.
At this point, it is important that you highlight all the positive points of the country. For instance, if you will be moving to Australia, explain to them that immigration is booming here because of its stable economy, high standard of living, multicultural environment, and exceptional educational system.
Show your children photos of popular landmarks and other places that your children will be interested to see or visit. Let your kids know that this big move will also be a great adventure so that they will feel some excitement.
3.Let them make some decisions
When relocating, kids often feel that they have no say in everything that is happening and will happen. Because of this, they can become resentful.
You can avoid this situation by involving your kids in some decision-making processes. Let them make some decisions on their own as well. You can do this during the packing stage. Let them choose which items to bring and leave behind.
If you are going shopping, let your children buy some things they want to bring. If your kids are surrounded by familiar things such as their favorite foods, books, and toys, they will be more comfortable and feel more secure in a new environment.
4.Give your kids a glimpse of the culture they will soon be immersed in
Help your kids know what to expect by bringing them to cultural events and performances, and letting them watch movies about the country you are moving to. You can also watch documentaries or travel programs online.
By following this tip, you will reduce some of the feelings of “strangeness” your children will feel in a new environment. They are also positive ways of allowing your children to discover a new culture.
5. Let them say their goodbyes properly
One of the most upsetting experiences your children will go through is leaving their friends and other people they love behind. It is therefore important that you give your kids a chance to spend time with the people who are important to them. Encourage them to go to the park, eat out, and of course, throw a going-away party.
Make sure you explain to your kids that even if they will be far from their friends and other loved ones, it doesn’t mean that they should grow apart. They can stay in touch with them through SMS, emails, chats, and online video calls.
It is crucial that your kids maintain their relationship with the people they love since this will provide them the support and familiarity they need to thrive in a new country.
As a parting tip, throughout the experience, stay positive. Your attitude, as well as your spouse’s, will affect your children’s mindset and behavior. Everyone will have a tough time, especially during the first few months of your stay in a new country. But the whole family can weather it through and ultimately adjust as long as everyone stays optimistic.
Robert Wise, Sales Administration Manager at Nuss Removals, has been a respected figure in the removals industry for over 20 years. His attention to detail and the ability to truly understand the needs of the customer have ensured the successful relocation of thousands of satisfied individuals and families. For moving and storage across Australia and around the world, Robert’s wealth of experience ensures his customers are in safe hands.